You’ve heard the phrase, “Small hinges open big doors.” Highly successful people are unconsciously doing little things that lead to big results. And if they can do it, you can, too.
1. Power Habit: Take 100% responsibility for your life.
The first step to making any important life change is to take responsibility. Look at that word responsibility—it’s comprised of the words response and ability, meaning “the ability to respond”.
When you take responsibility, you are saying to yourself and the universe, “I am able to respond to what’s happening in my life, and I am not a victim.” This is the first step to lasting change.
2. Power Habit: Ask yourself what you really want.
It’s true: You can’t get where you’re going if you don’t know where that is. Many of my clients start our first coaching session by saying,
“But I don’t know what I want!” I argue that you do know what you want, but you are too scared to admit it. Ask yourself, “If time and money were no object, what would I really love to be, do, or have?” If the answer doesn’t frighten you a little, you may not be asking big enough!
3. Power Habit: Ask empowering questions.
Asking empowering questions or Afformations is one of the foundational Power Habits. Afformations are empowering questions that immediately change your subconscious thought patterns from negative to positive. Most people are unconsciously asking themselves very disempowering questions like, Why can’t I do anything right?, Why am I so broke?, and Why can’t I lose weight?
When you constantly ask disempowering questions, whether you’re doing it consciously or not, your mind will find a way to make it so. Change your disempowering questions to empowering questions like, Why am I good enough? and Why does everything work out for the best?
4. Power Habit: Stop blaming others.
Blaming others leads to the emotional block called resentment. The word resentment comes from a Latin word meaning “to feel again.”
Focusing on past hurts and slights may give you a feeling of control, but it’s a false feeling because the past is gone.
The quality of your life depends on just two things: the quality of your communication with the world inside of you, and the quality of your communication with the world outside of you.
Use Power Habits to improve the quality of communication with both worlds that you live in.
5. Power Habit: Stop blaming yourself.
This is the flip side of blaming others. Blaming yourself leads to the emotional block called guilt. Guilt is simply resentment turned inward. Just like focusing on how others hurt you in the past, focusing on your mistakes only intensifies feelings of inadequacy and not-enoughness. Talk to yourself like you would talk with a friend who is hurting. Would you tell your friend they were “stupid” or “not good enough”? Of course not! Then don’t say these things to yourself.
6. Power Habit: Give yourself permission to succeed.
Most people are driving down the road of life with one foot on the brake. As much as you want something—whether it’s more money, to lose weight, be healthier, find your soul mate, or quit a bad habit—your brain is hardwired to keep doing the things it’s been doing. That’s why you must consciously give yourself permission to accept the good things in life, even if it’s been years since you’ve done anything nice for yourself.
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