“Had we not doubted love we would be in heaven right now.” Ishwar Puri
Abandonment… it happened to me. On the line was trust in my own feelings: the heart’s knowing. My heart took a hit, and now… ?
What to do about the pain? Well, some might react or retaliate, but I don’t feel any anger. Some might make an effort to dissect the situation, explain it away or psychoanalyze everybody. I used that route for years. It can soothe the ego but it can also lead to seeing oneself as ‘wrong’, a fool, or not good enough.
In truth, we don’t have to do anything with emotional pain other than to let it be a part of us. When we feel pain in our heart it’s very real. It’s our innocence. If we don’t reject or try to manipulate painful, negative or unwanted emotions, but instead acknowledge them, and integrate them, we nurture wisdom and a fertile heart space.
We don’t have to always understand what’s happening… it is enough to accept the feelings and to love our own innocence. And by loving my heart, I love all of us who have felt abandoned.
Love heals. Love also expands and is forward moving.
What does the future hold? It holds very great and frequent changes and some mighty generations of young men and women. People in their teens, twenties and thirties are ‘young’ in that they embody the idealistic energy: they want change, they definitely have their own minds, and the system hasn’t conquered them with fear.
We who love them can only be guides. How? Listen to them. Appreciate who they are. Appreciate their experience… their survival story.
Some of the stories are very traumatic. Thinking about it, I can say that emotional pain has been woven through all of the stories I’ve heard. As a result, these young people have bruises, but they also have quite a lot of understanding, plenty of empathy, and a strong desire to do right. They are capable of fully healing, but then again so are we all. And we are all creators.
Their experience is very different than ours. Sometimes I think it’s more than the normal generation gap. They were born into a shocking world. Can they see a future? If the answer turns toward “no”, then how are they dealing with that reality? Among them are communicators, problem solvers, warriors, rescuers – they have to be. Maybe it’s not just a few. They all could be heroes in the making. Who else would dare to be born at this time?
Every human being can ‘feel’, whether we are aware of the inner world or not, so we have that in common with today’s young. What do you experience in the mind and body when you feel abandoned, or defeated, afraid or ‘done wrong’; how do you respond when you feel loved, appreciated, respected, honored. Having an open heart means that you respond with appreciation for every feeling.
Some of us in the Elder generation have a ‘been there’ kinship with today’s youth: by that I mean the 1960’s energy. We got into justice, fairness, peace and ‘love one another’ enough to stand up for it. The warriors fought hard, and it felt liberating and hopeful. Black Nationalism happened, Wounded Knee happened. Some warriors took long prison sentences. Leaders were brought down. We watched as noble spirits were killed.