Nothing heals better emotionally, biochemically, physically and mentally than love – or experiencing the frequency of romantic love as all is frequency. It is like a drug that heals, but one must watch out for the side effects, such as obsession.
If you have never felt this love, your soul may seek to heal the issues which will allow you to attract this experience. Some people are happier and healthier giving love, while others need to be loved to remain healthy. Love should be in balance as that is the key word in all healing.
As you know love is the emotion most sought after on our journey in physical reality. Romantic love is a high that is often addictive in our need to obtain and keep it. When we experience it, we revel in the bliss love elicits and bask in the warmth that blankets us with caring, gratitude, comfort, and a sense of all-around well being. This wonderful feeling we call love does, indeed, create well-being. In fact, feeling love sets forth a complex series of events within our bodies that generally bring about better health.
A distinction must be made between “falling in love” and “being in love” or feeling love in general. Simply defined, falling in love is part of the initial stage of a relationship, in which we feel strong passionate feelings of attraction, both emotional and physical, to another person. If we are fortunate, this stage leads to being in love, a deeper devotion and affection, which may develop and deepen over time. Feeling love is much like being in love. However, we can feel love for someone who is not a romantic partner; in fact, we more often feel love without being “in love.” We frequently extend the more general kind of love to relatives, friends, even pets.
Numerous studies prove that love does, indeed, improve our health. These studies look at love not only in the context of male-female primary relationships, such as marriage, but also in the context of a person’s general social support and connection to others. In other words, these studies examine both relationships where participants are “in love” and those in which we feel love for someone.
Dean Ornish, M.D., has served as a pioneer in this work. In his book, Love and Survival, the Scientific Basis for the Healing Power of Intimacy he reports on many such studies. For example, he helped conduct a study at Yale that involved 119 men and 40 women undergoing coronary angiography.
Those who felt the most loved and supported had substantially less blockages in their heart arteries than the other subjects. In a related study, researchers looked at almost 10 thousand married men with no prior history of angina. These men had high levels of risk factors, such as elevated cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, and electrocardiogram abnormalities. Those who felt their wives did not show them love experienced almost twice as much angina as the first group, who felt their wives did show them love.
While feeling loved appears to benefit our heart’s health, giving love seems to do the same for our aging process. The results of a study of more than 700 elderly adults showed that the effects of aging were influenced more by what the participants contributed to their social support network than what they received from it. In other words, the more love and support they gave, the more they benefited.
Social ties with friends, family, workers, and community that involve love and intimacy of any type also may help protect against infectious diseases. In a study of 276 healthy volunteers ranging in age from 18 to 55, all participants received nasal drops containing rhinovirus, which causes the common cold.
Researchers assessed subjects on 12 types of relationships, including relationship with spouse, parents, parents-in-law, children and other close family members, neighbors, friends, co-workers schoolmates, and member of various groups. They scored a point for each type of relationship if they spoke to a person in that category at least once every two weeks. While almost all of the people exposed to the cold virus were infected, not everyone developed the signs and symptoms of a cold. The participants who reported only one to three types of relationships had more than four times the risk of developing a cold than those reporting six or more types of relationships.
“When you feel loved, nurtured, cared for, supported, and intimate, you are much more likely to be happier and healthier. You have a much lower risk of getting sick and, if you do, a much greater chance of surviving,” Ornish concludes in his book.
Love is a positive high frequency emotion which can heal and help us overcome many obstacles and appear to heal. To watch a person who is ill fall in love – is often like watching a miracle. It is more about mind over matter. When you are in love you feel infallible. You walk fly. You would never create an illness or allow anything detrimental into your energies as you want to remain on that high forever.
Love refers to the emotional body – more specifically the heart chakra – the soul – which we are here to heal! If we heal the heart we create the balance we seek and thus are able to release from the emotional bondage we experience in 3D – the physical realms. Our soul separates from its polar opposite when we come into physical form. It spends its lifetimes seeking love and trying the heal the pain of that separation – until soul reunions is achieved. This emotional concept of love is connecting with twin flame separation.
Romantic love can help us heal – but is it a quick fix – rarely permanent. As we know – the adrenaline high of falling in love does not last forever. I have seen depressed people who have fallen in love – function perfectly – until the high is over – which can last days … weeks … or months … up to 3 years. After that – the depressed person goes back to their emotional problems as the high feeling of love subsides. Sometimes the depression that follows is deeper than before. Professional help should be sought at this time.
The best love for healing – is balanced love with compassion, acceptance, and understanding. It is a spiritual and emotional high which can be romantic – but is more powerful as it lasts.
When two people are attracted to each other, a virtual explosion of adrenaline-like nuerochemicals gush forth. Fireworks explode and we see stars. PEA or phenylethylamine is a chemical that speeds up the flow of information between nerve cells. Also, involved in chemistry are dopamine and norepinephrine, chemical cousins of amphetamines.
Dopamine makes us feel good and norepinephrine stimulates the production of adrenaline. It makes our heart race! These three chemicals combine to give us infatuation or chemistry. It is why new lovers feel euphoric and energized, and float on air. It is also why new lovers can make love for hours and talk all night for weeks on end. This is the chemistry or the love sparks we all seek.
Singles search for love armed with a list of qualities desired in a mate/lover, such as honesty, fidelity, loyalty, sense of humor, intelligence, warmth, etc. Yet when that person appears they say, they are really nice, but nothing clicked, just no chemistry. We always seek the chemistry high.
Unfortunately, we hear that click when we recognize our original parent/child situation. That’s when our brain really gets those phenylethylamines and other chemicals moving.
Some people become veritable ‘love junkies.’ They need chemistry or this chemical excitement to feel happy about and intoxicated by life. Once this initial rush of chemicals wanes their relationship crumbles. They’re soon off again, detectives seeking a quick fix to their forlorn feelings: another chemical high from infatuation.
These love junkies also have one other problem. The body builds up a tolerance to these chemicals. Then it takes more and more chemistry to bring that special feeling of love. They crave the intoxication of chemistry and infatuation.
Many adults go through life in a series of six-month to three-year relationships that keep them high. If these love junkies stay married, they are likely to seek affairs to fuel their chemical highs.
Studies conducted at the Institute for HeartMath in Boulder Creek, California, confirm the health-improving and life-affirming effects of love on the human body. By studying the heart’s rhythms, researchers there have discovered that when we feel love, or any positive emotion such as compassion, caring, or gratitude, the heart sends messages to the brain and secretes hormones that positively affect our health.
“Our heart rate changes with every heartbeat,” Rollin McCraty, director of research at the Institute of HeartMath, explains. “It creates patterns we call heart rhythms.” Researchers see the difference in heart rhythms easily when study participants wear portable recorders that allow researchers to monitor their heart rhythms as they go about their day. These rhythms provide “a window” into the inner workings of the communication system between the heart and the brain.
McCraty believes the heart actually monitors the blood stream for hormones and translates the hormonal information into neurological information, which cascades up into the higher brain centers, like the cortex.
“When we get stressed out or mad or worried, the bottom line is that the heart’s rhythmic beating pattern becomes very incoherent, and that has the effect of inhibiting the brain’s cortex,” McCraty explains. “When we feel emotions like love and appreciation the heart switches into a very rhythmic, coherent, beating pattern that facilitates cortical function.” These coherent heart rhythms, he says, cause an “inner synchronization” of the systems in our body, which then affects how we think, function, and fight off disease.
Not only does the heart communicate with the brain via the nervous system, its rhythms affect the functioning of the nervous system itself. The autonomic nervous system is divided into two branches, one that speeds things up and another that slows things down. “When we are in a non-loving state, when we are angry at someone, the two halves of the nervous system get out of sync with one another. It’s like they’re fighting each other: one tries to speed the heart up as the other tries to slow it down. This is what creates this very erratic heart rhythm.
“When we are in a loving state, our hearts go into coherent heart rhythms,” says McCraty. “This is because the two halves of the nervous system are in sync and operating much more efficiently together. That allows the body to go through its natural regenerative process,” he explains.
“If we feel love and compassion, that boosts our immune system.”
The effect of which McCraty speaks showed up in a study documented by Doc Childre, architect of the HeartMath program. When subjects of the experiment felt angry for one five-minute period, their cortisol levels increased. Cortisol, known as the stress hormone, suppresses the immune system.
Thus, these subjects experienced suppressed secretory immunoglobulin A (IgA), an antibody, for up to six hours after feeling angry for only five minutes. Secretory IgA serves as the human body’s first line of defense against disease. Thus, lower than normal levels of IgA, leave us more susceptible to colds, flu and respiratory disease. When the subjects of this study felt love and appreciation for just one five-minute period, their secretory Iga rose significantly. While the rise in IgA spikes after feeling love for five minutes and then drops off, it then begins a slow rise that continues for many hours afterward.
A few years ago researchers at the Institute of HeartMath used their tools to teach 30 people how to feel love in a conscious manner. One month later, they measured the study subjects’ levels of both cortisol and DHEA, known as the anti-aging hormone. They found that the cortisol levels for the whole group had decreased 23 percent while the group’s DHEA levels increased 100 percent across the board.
“The measurement of those two hormones is considered by many, including myself, to be a very good measure of stress and aging” says McCraty. “If they are out of balance, such as high cortisol, low DHEA, that basically is rapid aging. Learning to love or to love more consciously, more of the time, brings those hormones into balance. This is a very direct pathway to see how love affects health.”
Cardiologist Bruce Wilson, chairman of the Medical Education Committee at Columbia Hospital in Milwaukee, WI, found that many of his patients suffer not from the five identifiable risk factors for heart disease, which are family history, cholesterol elevation, smoking, diabetes, hypertension, but from the effects of a stressful life. In his work as both a doctor and a HeartMath trainer, Wilson reports that he has seen people shift their heart rhythms from anger or stress to love and benefit from the physiology.
Another body of work sheds light on the health benefits of love by looking at the makeup of emotions. Candace Pert, Ph.D., research professor at Georgetown University Medical Center in Washington, D.C., and author of Molecules of Emotion, Why You Feel the Way You Do (Scribner, 1997), reports that endorphins, which are associated with the feeling of bliss, help us “bond” with other people.
In other words, they help us form loving relationships. Endorphins are “natural endogenous morphine-like substances that we produce in our brain, sex organs, gut, immune system, and heart,” says Pert. “Certainly the data would suggest that endorphins are involved” when we feel love. Endorphins are known not only to create a positive, bliss-like feeling — which we definitely associate with love — but also to stimulate the special immune system cells, called Natural Killer cells, which fight cancer. In addition, they improve digestion and elimination.
While the fact that love improves our health may be good news for people in an intimate primary relationship, it may appear just the opposite for those who are not. However, to reap the benefits of love you need not have a lover or spouse.
The love you feel can be for a co-worker, a parent, a child, or a sibling. In fact, it can even be for your dog, cat, fish, or plants. “Somebody could be flooded with love for their pet or their God and get just as much of a boost…as someone who just started going out with someone new,” comments Pert. There are numerous studies illustrating the fact that people live healthier lives and heal better after a major illness or surgery if they own a pet. In particular, many such studies have shown that the elderly fare better if they own pets.
For those who still feel doubt about the power of love to improve their lives, yet one more hope exists. Wilson suggests that people can apply HeartMath techniques to the deep gratitude or appreciation you feel toward a movie, a concerto, or another activity or event that fosters in you positive feelings.
“One step in this technique has to do with focusing very hard on one moment of sincere appreciation,” Wilson explains. He conjures up a sunset in Cancun, though your own chosen focus may be closer to home. “You call up one of your many images, think of that special moment, center yourself in your heart, and access this physiology.
Then these changes in physiology totally change how you are interacting with your environment. They change your internal physiology. They change the balance in your autonomic nervous system. Literally,” he concludes.
One question still remains unanswered: Is falling in love better for our health than being in love or feeling love? While McCraty feels that truly falling in love can boost health, he notes that dating and the insecurity that can go with looking for new relationships can involve a fair amount of stress. Pert agrees:
“We could speculate that in the beginning stages of love there is more of an excitement factor, which would produce some of the classical neurotransmitters, like norepinephrine and dopamine, which are involved with excitement,” she explains.”If you are actually flooded with norepinephrine, [viruses have a hard time getting in.”But Pert urges us to “celebrate old love as well.” She adds, “Maybe as [love] becomes richer and deeper and different … then additional chemicals come into play.”
In any case, we can all be reassured that the more we love and are loved, the healthier we become.
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