It’s usually easy to identify that Negative Nancy or Debbie Downer who wreak havoc on office morale or who drag down the festive spirit at a family function. Their bad attitudes, catastrophic thinking, and fatalistic outlooks can infiltrate the ranks and spread like an epidemic. And although these negative people should get the least of our time and energy, we often give them the most attention.
Negative people can also cause problems for us on an individual level. Perhaps it’s that neighbor who causes you to grit your teeth. Or maybe it’s a colleague whom you avoid at all costs. It’s important to recognize when these negative individuals intrude in your life in an unwelcome manner.
Sometimes, we unknowingly give toxic individuals influence over our thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. Whether you spend two hours complaining about a mother-in-law you don’t like, or you let an angry customer ruin your day, it’s important to regain your personal power and stay mentally strong.
Here are five strategies to take back you power and reduce the detrimental impact negative people have in your life:
1. Guard Your Time
Negative people can monopolize your time—even when they’re not with you—if you’re not careful. It’s easy to spend two hours dreading a one hour visit with a negative person. Combine that with two hours of venting to your partner after the visit, and you’ve just given that person five precious hours of your time.
Don’t allow negative people to steal your time and energy. Rather than complain about people you don’t enjoy, choose to strike up conversations about pleasurable topics. Similarly, instead of spending your commute thinking about how much you dislike that person you have to work with, turn on the radio and listen to music that reduces your stress. Take back your power by limiting the amount of time you spend talking about, thinking about, and worrying about unpleasant people.
2. Choose Your Attitude
Spending time with negative people can be the fastest way to ruin a good mood. Their pessimistic outlooks and gloomy attitude can decrease our motivation and change the way we feel. But allowing a negative person to dictate your emotions gives them too much power in your life.
Make a conscious effort to choose your attitude. Create a mantra, such as, “I’m going to stay positive today despite the people around me,” and repeat it often to help you stay on track. Take a deep breath and decide that you’re going to make it a great day, despite what others say or do.
3. Refocus Your Thoughts
Negative people often influence what we think about. Perhaps you’re so distracted by your colleague’s know-it-all attitude that you can’t contribute productively to the meeting. Or, rather than think about how to improve your performance, you spend more time thinking about how upset you’ll be if that unpleasant co-worker gets a promotion.
Pay attention to how your thoughts change when you’re faced with negative people. The more time you spend dreading, fretting, worrying, and rehashing, the less time you’ll have to devote to more productive things. Make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of mental energy you expend on negative people.
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