You may have heard that long-term relationships eventually and inevitably become flat and boring. Many people believe this idea to be true, which is unfortunate because it’s not. At least not according to many long-term married couples (including ourselves) with whom we’ve spoken, The danger in believing something that isn’t necessarily true is that in doing so you are likely to act accordingly, and risk creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Getting to be right about something isn’t always a good thing.
While it’s not unusual for couples to experience periods of time in which feelings of passion, desire, and attraction ebb, rather than flow, this is not an indicator that something is wrong or that it’s the beginning of a permanent flat-line. What it could mean is that the needs of the relationship have been neglected and it is in need of recharging.
Fortunately, this is generally a pretty easy fix and with a little help from each partner, passion cannot only be restored, but can be elevated to an even higher level.
While it is impossible to prevent stale moments from ever occurring, it is possible to strengthen the substance of a relationship in a way that diminishes their frequency.Keeping your relationship fresh, passionate, and alive—whether you’re 20 or 90—just requires infusing things with more fun and pleasure.
A contributing factor to a loss of passion can be a pattern of withholding difficult truths out of the fear. The antidote to that one is simple: get honest!