There seems to be some ‘mess up’ in the beautiful rules of engagement on a heart level that is currently taking some good folks down.
This spiritual awakening is all about love, yes.
Give love and you shall receive love. Not always, apparently. Love defined here: in the field of reaching out to help others prevail in life.
The matrix has been very clever in taking people down – I think we’re in this to build each other up.
Maybe we need to ponder on the rules of engagement or put up some good perimeters for hitting people with love potion # 9.
I get it in my mailbox and I experience it myself.
Let me give a couple of examples…
The other day I thought I’d give this Swiss lady a customized personal meditation exercise, since she really wanted to go into the Morph. A tailor made personal mediation can do the trick very rapidly, since it’s a very good tool for bypassing the fear of the void.
She didn’t ask for it, but really expressed the need to go ‘Morphing’ so I thought, ok, I’d help.
Based on her picture I shipped her a meditation drill that corresponded with her frequency but kept it basic since meditation is not complicated.
If meditations get too complicated they are not doing the right job. They become a puzzle in the mind and in order to conquer the morph you have to let go of the mind.
She received it and was very grateful.
I felt good – she penetrated the Morph in 20 minutes.
Giving her that experience became a joy.
The equation of giving and receiving added up.
Later that day I got a mail from a lady. It’s been a year since I last heard from her. She had given up her job and was attempting the life of going self-employed, selling hand made pottery.
I thought that was very brave.
So I wrote back: If you need, I would like to help you promote your work. You can have an ad up on my site, won’t cost you a dime, and hopefully that will draw some attention to your work.
She did not dignify my kind offer with an answer.
The equation of giving and receiving did not add up.
And it has to.
Yesterday I wrote: “Who’s the most important person in your life?”
The answer should be: “I am.”
I think we really have to hold on to that statement, even though it contradicts on one level perhaps the new age matrix of: ‘Just giving’ without receiving. And by receiving I mean an exchange of energy.
We can’t keep taking our love to town, love defined as caring, supporting, endorsing, if people don’t give back.
It’s feeding the piggish with pearls, and I noticed I have started to disengage from that. Because our love-batteries have to be charged in the interaction we are presented with. If there is no response, no change in that person we’re trying to help – we just get drained. If we get drained, we go low emotions and start to resent in order protect our hearts.
To put it gently: That’s not cool.
I once mailed Stuart: “Hey Bro, this person that we both know is in a tight situation, I have done what I could, can you do your thing?” and Stuart wrote back to me: “Hey Bro – sometimes I feel so inadequate.”
That meant: Not my thingy here. People are where they are.
Maybe it’s time to set a different perimeter for the heart zapping.
There’s a lot of New Age ridiculousness to the phrase:
‘I’m just pouring out love to anybody I meet’. Really – Love is hard work, compadre. Do you mean your surface based perception of love, which really isn’t that epic after all, or do you mean you really love everybody, including those who aren’t capable of responding on a fair note?
Think Jesus had a thought on that: Don’t throw pearls before swine.
Now, I’m not into religion that way, but I can reflect on the argument.
How much love do you want to throw into a bottomless pit?
How much love do you want to throw at people who don’t even grant you a response as much as a lift of an eyebrow?
Let’s talk about money.
If you have a pal that is in a tight spot and he keeps asking you for money and throws it away in countless poker games because he has no clue to the concept of money or is a compulsive gambler – how long will you continue?
Until you’re broke too?
If yes – maybe reconsider eh?
If no – okay it’s the same mechanics since both money and love are expressions of energy. Kind of old news.
I see people getting sick to the core of loving too much, because they are wearing themselves out. That’s not fair, that’s not a way to administer oneself. That’s being reckless and stupid.
So maybe get off the ‘Unicornified-aerie-fairy-matrix-induced’, concept of:
‘Wowzer I’m just one epic Tesla plant of a real high frequency love zapping device shining my divine love on everybody on this frikkin planet and I want nothing in return.’
Yes you do want something…..Figure out what.
Love wants to be recognized. Love wants to be appreciated. Love wants givers and givers, not: givers and takers and certainly not: givers and ‘whatever’.
Put into the context of a romantic relationship:
Do you really want to be in a relationship where you don’t get anything in return for the love you bring into it?
If yes: Get your head examined. You have serious issues – one is, you don’t think you deserve to be loved. Break out. Run, baby run.
Everyone we meet here we meet on a relationship note. Maybe love, maybe work, maybe friend, maybe strangers. We enter relationships wherever we are.
I think we are entering a chapter now, where we really need to look out for the dynamics of giving and receiving. Not necessarily taking our love to town, but maybe keeping it a bit in the neighborhood.
Some we will have to leave behind, as much as it hurts me to say that, because frankly:
They don’t get it.
And that is not our responsibility – walk away – let go – be free – love what gives and neutralize what just takes by disengaging.
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